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So you find yourself in this situation.

You are crushing hard on one of your close friends. Obviously, s/he has no clue how you feel about them. You want to tell them but you're afraid. You feel silly for feeling afraid. But can you imagine the consequences should s/he know? How it might actually put your friendship at risk?

So after much deliberation weighing out the pros and cons, you decide that it's best not to tell them.

Your eye lights up every single time you meet. You feel butterflies in your stomach. And when your eyes meet, you look away because you're shy. Conversations with s/he are endless and you never want the night to end. Even when you're out with a group of friends, all you see is him/her and nothing else matters.

You drop hints after another, even obvious ones, but s/he never seems to get it. Irregardless of that, both of you flirt a lot with each other, even to the extent of giving each other affectionate nicknames that only the both of you know.

S/he is extremely particular when loaning out his CDs for fear of it being damaged but s/he loans it to you anyway and tells you to take care of it as if it were your own. S/he never loans it to anyone else but you.

You stare at your whatsapp, waiting for a message at least because hopefully s/he is thinking about you too right now and might be sending you one shortly. What a loser, right? You get tired of waiting, so you initiate the conversation and then start feeling sorry for yourself for making the first move.

You confide in each other about almost everything when it comes to matters of the heart. You sense a tinge of jealousy from them when you mentioned that you've been seeing someone. As ironic as it may sound. But here's the thing, you do know that there is a chance that s/he likes you back but you're unsure.

Then you're told that s/he will be going on a first date with a stranger. Being the stupid person that you are, you encourage them and tells s/he to 'go for it' when you clearly meant otherwise.

From first date and eventually turning into weekly meet ups, even meeting close to midnight to have ice cream. I mean, who does that, seriously? After every date with the third party, s/he tells you that their date is amazing and s/he can't wait to see their date again.

Because you're such a spiteful person who gets jealous easily (and also partly because you're such a huge fan of Cheryl Cole and she says that "Anything that's worth having is sure enough worth fighting for."), you act like the possessive boy/girlfriend and say,

"So now you don't have time to meet me at all? Ever since you meet your date?"

The reply?

"Oh so it's okay that you're always meeting your date last time (jealousy in the air) but when I do it, you have issues with me?"

Of course, you replied back with a casual "Just joking la. Why so angsty?" and your friendship resumed as per normal.

You're unsure if they're still seeing each other though chances are, they're not anymore. And you don't want to ask about it just because it might make you look like the biggest busybody.

Then you dream about s/he, which just happened to be not one of those innocent dreams. Your best friend tells you to go for it while the window is open. But you hesitate.

Do you let s/he be the one that got away? Or do you just be silly and tell? And risk being awkward around s/he forever? There could probably a chance that s/he is reading this right now and maybe, just maybe, s/he will end up making the first move. I'm a coward when it comes to making first moves.

What do you do? Because I seriously do not know.

(Someone enlighten me.)

Labels: BGR Issues, Food For Thought, The Situation

Being a Control Freak

Sunday, December 04, 2011

I love reading my monthly horoscope. Being the naive boy that I was, I used to flip through the latest issue of Readers' Digest just to read my horoscope and 'foresee my future'. It's a self-esteem booster (though it brings a negative impact at times.) especially when your horoscope reads something positive like, "Your sense of personal power will be strong on Thursday!" or even "Consider assisting a colleague who may require a helping hand this Sunday. Remember, good deeds generate good karma!". And I extremely love it when my horoscope tells me I'd meet a special someone on this date, which I do most of the times, as ridiculous as it may sound.

Though many might think that our horoscopes defines us for the person that we are, I think it's the other way around, considering that I have met other fellow Scorpios and they exhibit traits that are similar to mine thus making several encounters to be quite unpleasant. When we get along, we become the best of friends but when we have a disagreement, oh boy get your knickers ready for another World War is bound to happen.

Being a Scorpio, I am a very stubborn, willful and an extremely determined person. I know what I want (most of the time) and I make sure that I get it. I tend to have high expectations of everyone around me and their opinions about me (and end up worrying if I don't meet their expectations). God bless to my future partner who decides to spend the rest of their life with me, because even I can't stand my own behavior at times.

(Source: ScorpioHipsters)

This describes me perfectly, whether I like it or not.

I had a conversation with a friend, who just graduated from QUT, the university where I intend to further my studies at once I am done with National Service (in just a few months time!). Though millions of questions were asked, I was just seeking advice from her, mainly because I wanted to know what to expect before I do reach there eventually.

Here's what she had to say about Scorpios.

"One of the reasons why you're asking this many questions (which is good!) is because it helps you to deal with the 'unknown'. And one other piece of advice that I could give you - Don't take it too hard on yourself. Knowing that you're a Scorpio, I know you take it really hardly when you don't meet your own and others expectation. Control is the biggest trait of your element. Use it."

It's like she knew me inside out! Even though I accused her of stereotyping Scorpios, (Here's her take on Scorpio people on her blog.) it's true! I am all that. I never knew I liked to be in control in most situations. So I wrote down the things I do that could probably define me as the 'Control Freak'.

I'm the kind of person
… who likes to hold the remote control while I'm watching the television. (and when I don't, I can't help but to worry someone might just switch channels while I'm in the midst of watching my favourite show)
… who plans ahead in almost everything I do. (Let's see. I started planning for my 21st birthday since a year ago. And I picked my group mates for my third year studies in Mass Comm while everyone else is happily enjoying their two months semester break.)
… who has high expectations of what people think about me. (It's not that I worry about not being liked or popular, I just don't like it at all when people misinterpret my intentions me and give judgement on the things I do.)
… who sets up a calendar schedule on what TV shows to watch every single day. (Who else actually does this?!)

So I guess being in control in most situations reassures me. It doesn't hurt to be one step ahead of everyone else all the time, does it? And when things are not in my favor? I tend to panic. A LOT. Might even get extremely dramatic. Or even run away. And I don't appreciate people acting on decisions without discussing it with me first.

I'm quite freaked out by my behavior now. Haha.

The next time you're ever considering in getting into a relationship with a Scorpio, make sure it's worth the risk (and know what you're getting yourself into) or you'll end up getting pinched most of the time. We dominate most of the relationships we're in and we get extremely angsty when we do notice something that could potentially threaten the relationship.

But hey, I'm a Scorpio and I know I'm definitely worth the risk. So, go on and take a chance with me. Heh. Because what would hurt you the worst will love you the most, as long as you can tame the Scorpio inside of me.

And who knows, I could let you be in control once in a while, whenever I feel like it.

Labels: Control Freak, Daily Musings, Food For Thought, Horoscope, Scorpio

BGR Issues: D-A-T-E

Wednesday, February 02, 2011

*To the girl involved in this blogpost, I don't mean to ambush you. But do keep an open mind though. ;)

"Hey Amirul, I have something to tell you, a secret that I've been keeping from you all these while."

"What is it?"

"That I was an immature teenager who thought you were wooing me so I did little things to make you dislike me. Yes I suck. Forgive me."

"D: Am I really not that likeable of a person?"

"You are likeable, with the English and humour and wit and all. Just that I was a blind, superficial teenager. ;)"

I was left with mixed reactions. "Wait, she thought I was wooing her?" "Why wouldn't she like me in the first place? Am I not boyfriend material?" "But how did this even end up to be a 'D-A-T-E'?".
I didn't want to embarrass her further. So I left the conversation at that.

Sure. We went out for a movie or two, dinner and did some sports activities together in the park, the kind of stuff I'd normally do with my other girl friends. We even had cute nicknames for each other. (I'm guessing this was the main problem.)

What was supposedly supposed to be a heart-to-heart sharing session with a girl (space) friend, who recently at that point of time, got her heart broken by another guy, got confused with the weird term that most of us would call "a date".

Little trivia about me. If you ever get a chance to know me in real-life, you'd probably know that I have more girl friends as compared to guy friends. People think I'm weird. People say it's because of my slightly feminine behaviour that sort of attracts all these girls to me. And it just so happens that the people I hang out with are mostly... girls, which makes me kinda awesome.

What actually defines a date? Whenever a guy asks a girl out, does that automatically make it a date? How can you actually tell the difference between a 'DATE' and 'just hanging out'? The lines between the two can be quite blurry most of the times so you might have to take the direct approach and just ask. But most of you probably won't do that, would you?

Otherwise, you can rely on the subtle hints below most of the time, but they're not 100% accurate though.

1. Look at what the guy is wearing!
Trust me on this. Guys who are interested in you would actually take the extra time and effort to 'doll themselves up' simply because they want to look their best infront of you. You won't see him wearing slippers or bermudas but instead a nice set of shirt combined with a nice pair of jeans along with shoes because first impression counts! He'll even shave his facial hair just for your sake when they don't bother doing so usually.

2. When the guy insists on paying everything for you.
Call it old-fashioned or whatsoever. But girls love it when guys pick up the tab for dinner. When a guy insists on picking up the tab for dinner, he wants it to be a date. And if you allow him to do so, you're actually giving him the confirmation signal that it IS a date. But if you insist on paying for your share, then you're just making him uncomfortable and letting him know indirectly that you don't want this to be a date. Too bad guys.

3. Look out for his deadly piercing gaze.
Girls love attention, don't they? And they love it even more when guys divert their whole attention towards them. Just make sure he's gazing into your eyes and not somewhere else... below.

4. When you give cute nicknames to each other.
As childish as this may sound, if he likes you enough to be his date, he'll probably give you a nickname, shared between the two of you. It's cute.. but sometimes misleading.

Come to think of it, when both of you have suspicions that it is a date, then it is a date. Before getting all emotionally involved in the 'date', at least be sure that it is a date or you'd end up embarrassing yourself at the end of the day.

Just know that it is never wrong for a guy and a girl to just hang out to somewhere, as long as either parties are not expecting something to come out of it.

As for my situation, it wasn't a date, at least I didn't think it was. I'm sorry if I misled the poor girl into thinking that it was a date... I'll just have no choice but to make myself clear whenever I'm 'hanging out' with another girl for fear she might mistake it to be a 'date'.

How would you differentiate between a 'date' and 'just hanging out'?

Labels: Food For Thought

One Tree Hill Rant

Friday, January 28, 2011

What you did in here.. it's amazing Haley. No one has ever done something like this for me before. It's funny Peyton always used to say that people always leave.. but when they did, I was always the one who was here for her. This year has been the hardest of my life and you know who was always here for me? No matter what? My maid of honour. You.

I cried at this scene. Just because it hurts. How could Brooke say that about Peyton?! But most importantly, why are they trying to kill the amazing Brooke/Peyton friendship? Their friendship was by far one of the strongest in the entire One Tree Hill series. They went through so much together. It was comparable to that scene in season 4 when Brooke made fun of Peyton's mom and Peyton said something like, "This year was one of the hardest of my life and I needed my bestfriend here for me."

Peyton, you suck. I can't believe One Tree Hill is going to end just like that without a proper reunion with Chad Michael Murray and Hilarie Burton. Next week's episode better be good though. :(

Labels: Food For Thought

BGR Issues: How do you know if a girl is into you?

Friday, January 07, 2011

Friend: Amirul, do you have a girlfriend?
Me: No. Not at the moment. Why do you say so?
Friend: Because you look like the type of guy who would have plenty of girlfriends.
Me: Man, yeah I wish you were right about that.
Friend: You look at my face and you guess whether I have a girlfriend. Just guess.
(Trying hard not to be mean.. so I gave him a politically correct answer)
Me: Well, I don't think you have a girlfriend. But I'm pretty sure there's someone in your life that you're interested in... Am I right to say that?
Friend: Wah! How'd you guess? Yes, there's someone that I like. But I'm not sure if she feels the same way towards me.
Me: Does she know that you like her? Has she showed any signs that she might like you?
Friend: No, she doesn't know that I like her. She probably thinks of me as a brother towards her. But then again, whenever we take photos with each other, she'd come so close towards me and hug me.
Me: Like how close... close?
Friend: Really really close to me. But it's normal, right?
Me: You could say that. But if you really like her and if you feel that you are ready to take your relationship to the next level.. then you should tell her.

I'm not a love doctor or what. But when a friend seeks advice from me, I give. I don't have that many experiences to share with them to begin with but I try. Don't you guys wish that girls would just make the first move and make everything so much easier for you? In fact, most guys I know don't feel that way. They usually hesitate, just because they're afraid to take that risk. You know, like what would happen to their friendship if their so-called relationship doesn't work out at the end of day. Awkward moments. Why would you want to disrupt a perfectly fine (could be better) friendship, right? Life's a gamble.

Getting back to the point. One can only wonder what goes on in the girls' head.. their mindset.. their train of thoughts. I know some signs that are drop-dead obvious. Guys are stupid, I agree. But you can't really fault them for that. When they're with the person that they have a crush on, they tend to lose their brains and end up saying stupid things. Here are some drop-dead obvious signs to know if a girl likes you:

1. When they get a little touchy-touchy with you.
Sometimes, girls (yes i am making a sweeping statement here) try to take advantage by getting all touchy with you.. She'll probably give you a light tap on the shoulder when you're having a conversation with each other or somewhere else. However take note that not all hugs from girls are signs. For all you know, it could just be a friendly hug. So yeah, hugs are not an accurate indicator of her feelings towards you.

2. When she laughs at every single thing you say. Even when it's not a joke!
Seriously. Girls like guys who can easily amuse them. Sure they like good-looking guys but looks don't last forever, do they? But Humour does. If you got it, it will always be there even when you're old, wrinkly and ugly. And trust me on this, girls love guys with a good sense of humour.

3. When she keeps asking you, "Why don't you have a girlfriend.. even till now?"/ "What type of girls do you like?"
When girls keep asking you those silly questions, they just wanna see if they fit into your criteria and that's when you'll start noticing small changes in them. Apart from that, they're just being a busybody and poking their nose in matters that doesn't even concern them at all. This is actually a good thing, because it shows that they have interest in your love life.

And that, my friend, is how you know if a girl is into you. The next move you make.. is entirely up to you. Good luck on that.

P.s And girls, just because a guy asks you out to somewhere, does not automatically make it a date. This.. should probably be in another post eh? Haha.

Labels: Food For Thought

Food for thought.

Wednesday, August 26, 2009

Quoting from my secondary schoolmate friend, Edah. I thought what she wrote really made a whole lot of sense I'm in the mood for sharing!

We tend to question if a person would be there for us till the end. Yet we often forget to question if we ourselves have truly been there for them in the first place.

We see what others fail to do right & forget any good they’ve done. Yet we fail to see what right we have never done & remember all the good we ever did.

We avoid someone when they suddenly blow their top, thinking we are giving them their space. Yet we think they don’t care if they steer away in times we wig out.

We say people frequently leave us out of everything, making us an outcast. Yet we leave others out more frequent than we realise, outcasting them.

We expect our friends to say sorry when they’ve hurt our feelings. Yet we hurt them more than always with no apologies being said.

We always want more of the good things, but have we ever thought to give in more than the usual? How ironical the human brain functions. (:

Real friends bring you up even when their hands are already full themselves. While many others put you down & are full of themselves. (:

Short and simple yet powerful messages. Thanks edah!

P.s I may be a very fucktup friend. But I'm sure that I make a better friend as compared to the majority of the people that I know in my life. =D

Labels: Food For Thought