Friend: Amirul, do you have a girlfriend?I'm not a love doctor or what. But when a friend seeks advice from me, I give. I don't have that many experiences to share with them to begin with but I try. Don't you guys wish that girls would just make the first move and make everything so much easier for you? In fact, most guys I know don't feel that way. They usually hesitate, just because they're afraid to take that risk. You know, like what would happen to their friendship if their so-called relationship doesn't work out at the end of day. Awkward moments. Why would you want to disrupt a perfectly fine (could be better) friendship, right? Life's a gamble.
Me: No. Not at the moment. Why do you say so?
Friend: Because you look like the type of guy who would have plenty of girlfriends.
Me: Man, yeah I wish you were right about that.
Friend: You look at my face and you guess whether I have a girlfriend. Just guess.
(Trying hard not to be mean.. so I gave him a politically correct answer)
Me: Well, I don't think you have a girlfriend. But I'm pretty sure there's someone in your life that you're interested in... Am I right to say that?
Friend: Wah! How'd you guess? Yes, there's someone that I like. But I'm not sure if she feels the same way towards me.
Me: Does she know that you like her? Has she showed any signs that she might like you?
Friend: No, she doesn't know that I like her. She probably thinks of me as a brother towards her. But then again, whenever we take photos with each other, she'd come so close towards me and hug me.
Me: Like how close... close?
Friend: Really really close to me. But it's normal, right?
Me: You could say that. But if you really like her and if you feel that you are ready to take your relationship to the next level.. then you should tell her.
Getting back to the point. One can only wonder what goes on in the girls' head.. their mindset.. their train of thoughts. I know some signs that are drop-dead obvious. Guys are stupid, I agree. But you can't really fault them for that. When they're with the person that they have a crush on, they tend to lose their brains and end up saying stupid things. Here are some drop-dead obvious signs to know if a girl likes you:
1. When they get a little touchy-touchy with you.
Sometimes, girls (yes i am making a sweeping statement here) try to take advantage by getting all touchy with you.. She'll probably give you a light tap on the shoulder when you're having a conversation with each other or somewhere else. However take note that not all hugs from girls are signs. For all you know, it could just be a friendly hug. So yeah, hugs are not an accurate indicator of her feelings towards you.
2. When she laughs at every single thing you say. Even when it's not a joke!
Seriously. Girls like guys who can easily amuse them. Sure they like good-looking guys but looks don't last forever, do they? But Humour does. If you got it, it will always be there even when you're old, wrinkly and ugly. And trust me on this, girls love guys with a good sense of humour.
3. When she keeps asking you, "Why don't you have a girlfriend.. even till now?"/ "What type of girls do you like?"
When girls keep asking you those silly questions, they just wanna see if they fit into your criteria and that's when you'll start noticing small changes in them. Apart from that, they're just being a busybody and poking their nose in matters that doesn't even concern them at all. This is actually a good thing, because it shows that they have interest in your love life.
And that, my friend, is how you know if a girl is into you. The next move you make.. is entirely up to you. Good luck on that.
P.s And girls, just because a guy asks you out to somewhere, does not automatically make it a date. This.. should probably be in another post eh? Haha.
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